” As such, understand that whatever level of full time learning you feel you’ll need to be a true ben Torah should probably be undertaken BEFORE you get married, or be prepared to think out of the box. Even if your wife is working at a well-paying job
– this may not be transferable everywhere
– she could be put on bed-rest with triplets soon after the chasuna
– financial support from parents can fall through
– you and she may feel it’s better for her to be at home full or part-time with the kids, much sooner than you think”
Very well-said, Tzippi.