AZ, what do we agree on? That 22/23 year old boys should marry girls their age because the girls can support them this way? Now, let’s say the boy wants to learn for a few years (and how many don’t want to?). Then they’ll need time to train for their own parnassah… it is unfair to our young women to put the complete burden on them for this long, and even more unfair to the parents. (Tuition crisis anyone?) But as my ivrit teacher would say, this is being tochen kemach tochun.
Why is a year of learning in E”Y if one feels that that is the place (avira dE”Y machkim) and the yeshiva where he’ll grow unproductive?
“When to start dating? That should depend on the each individual boy etc.” Not according to those who attribute the shidduch situation to age. Many of these people are advocating boys starting to date even YOUNGER.