One last thing: Az, you’re a better man than I am. I just said we’re rehashing old stuff, you proved it 😉 So permit me to say this, possibly again.
I don’t know if you’ve read R. Yonasan Rosenblum’s article Chemotherapy As Metaphor. I think that this generation has got to attack and work on and enable our children to build their batei ne’eman with the same energy and single-mindedness. Our kids have to go into marriage with that as the primary goal. Of course there is no bayis ne’eman without Torah as its absolute center and essence. But our boys have to go into this with more than they currently are.