One more thing. Your comments about building strong marriages is off this thread. However once again, If we want to create a ruach where boys have to bring more to the table (your argument); we must ven out the numbers. As long as the boys are sitting pretty in the shidduch situation and getting plenty of dates, there is no way to change the system. When the girls will have the upper hand and be able to insist on certain qualities WITHOUT running risk of being left on the island, then we will all see unbelievable changes in the qualities of the boys. As it stands now, the girls that hold out have a much greater chance of getting stuck.
Is it fair?? Absolutley NOT. But this IS the situation whether we like it or not.
It comes down to simple supply and demand.