Anonymisss:
The answer to your question is NO.
Without debating the haskafik issues (see Arizal who says bas ploni l’ploni only refers to boys who get married at 18). I have a simple question for you. If you grant that presently we have 2000 more older girls than older boys (because of the age gap problem) WHO is their ploni?????
Trying to argue the haskafic points is fruitless unless you either debate the numerical problem on shidduch island, Or you believe that the ratzon hashem is for us to do NOTHING about it.
For the record I strongly disagree with both points. The numbers are obvious, HE expects us to do whatever we can to alleviate the situation.