mdd: You didn’t address the questions in this post:
I didn’t suggest making public hakpodos in klal yisroel. I’m speaking of having personal, private, priorities for one’s own shidduchim prospects. Without public fanfare.
newbee: If you’re an American Jew, most Israeli Jews wouldn’t consider your family marriage material. (And vice versa.) If you’re MO, most Chareidim wouldn’t consider your family marriage material. If you’re Litvish, most Chasidim wouldn’t consider your family marriage material. (And vice versa.)
So you’d be uncomfortable at the Shabbos tables of Israelis, Chareidim and Chasidim – and would never consider being a member of their shuls?