Thanks DY and Joseph.
LC: I was basing it on anecdotal “evidence” as an additional and counter point to what VM said. There are still those not happy with their Yiddishkeit, but usually with strings attached, such as learning difficulties that have soured Yiddishkeit for them. And most likely their learning troubles weren’t handled in the best manner. So we come full circle as many aspects can be intertwined.
I was really loathe to mention the word abuse as it has different connotations for different folks — but obviously those on the receiving end of the opposite of positive attention and caring will turn away in greater numbers.
So when it comes to basic parenting one may be too strict with a specific child that can effect her adversely, and even though it’s not considered abusive she may consider it as such if she’s overly sensitive and it’s not balanced by love.