ZD,
So you define abuse as making a child do anything that the child does not want to.
A parent insisting that a child eat a certain food is hardly abuse. (I am not saying that there cannot be abuse, depending on how a parent does it, ,but just making a child eat something is not abuse, even if ZD does not like cholent.
A belief that “making a child do anything that they do not want to do is abuse” is in and of itself a serious form of abuse and abandonment.