Joseph, the Aruch HaShulchan says (EH 154,18-20 – http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=14243&st=&pgnum=638) that the bet din can force a husband who is violent or abandons his wife to give her a gett. I submit that verbal or emotional abuse is in the same category. In fact, it can be worse than physical abuse. As for the CI you cited I will have to see it inside. On the face of it (assuming you quote him correctly and completely) it is very difficult. How is simply telling someone that eh should give a gett force? The nature of force is that there is no choice. Here he has a choice. He can refuse and take the social and communal consequences. Conversely, there is no obligation to give someone a shul honor, invite him for a Shabbat meal, etc.
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