A woman can definetly influence her husband for bad or good. Like the story of the married couple who divorced. The woman remarried a wicked man and he became good and the man remarried a wicked woman and he became wicked.
Also, I had a story of a couple where the wife grew more spritual then her husband, but she did not force it upon her husband, so she wisely, started playing torah tapes more often, had torah classes in her home, that eventually, her husband became was influenced as well. Hashem give women that spritually “Binah” women’s intution, to wisely help her family to grow. How can a woman feel so low of herself?? Her attitude about her life is important. It can make her feel depressed or it can nourish her and realize the importance of what she is doing.
I have been able to go to Torah classes and most of what I wrote was from attending these classes. They have helped me change my attitude about the importance of Women in the Torah. If you can’t get out, there are so many torah CD’s and websites to listen too. Especially when you are doing housework. While folding laundry, or cooking dinner, you can be listening to a parshah CD. Talk about Multitasking!!
And Wolf, of course changing Diapers and cooking for you family is a chesed for men as well!!