mosherose,
It is not halacha that the wife is not allowed to have her own opinions and the husband SHOULD listen to the wife if her opinion is correct, like Hashem commanded Avraham Avinu to listen to Sura Emienu.
There are a lot of couples who’s wife does not voice her opinion strongly and the husband does things that are not correct.
You are hiding under halacha when you say a man shouldn’t help his wife with womanly duties. In fact Rav Miller speaks very strongly against men who able yet don’t help out at home.