“it’s not normal, or human nature to have 2 ppl agree all the time, or one always saying OK we’ll do it your way this time. there has to be one boss”
I did not marry a boss. I married my husband to build a life with him and raise our five children together. Sometimes his opinion is more knowledgeable than mine, sometimes mine is more knowledgeable than his. We base our decisions through discussion together of the information we both have, both express our opinions, and make a joint decision. If one of us feels REALLY strongly about the outcome, then the other will probably defer. We both have deferred to each other, when we see the final decision matters very strongly to one of us (assuming there is not a compelling argument for the other decision).