Regarding the analogy between a King and a husband, it was simply that both involve ruling and neither is any reason to be ashamed of it. The King wears a crown and the husband doesn’t; I guess that’s another reason the analogy isn’t oh so perfect. (I’m sure you can nitpick some more reasons.)
Nevertheless, I would encourage you not to focus so much on the analogy. The point is greater than that; and the point is an explicit pasuk in the Torah.
“but not because of the pasuk”
The pasuk isn’t good enough for you?
I have no idea what you are talking about in your last paragraph of your last post.