Wolf, I was talking to clearheaded. She is making points no one is arguing with, i.e.:
a marriage should have mutual respect for each other
the wife’s opinion carries some weight
a husband cannot force a wife to do something against halacha
etc.
BTW clearheaded, the answer to your questionnaire is technically 2, but the way you presented it is absurd. A husband should not make it as a fiat (even if he is entitled to.) He must speak to his wife with love and compassion, even if he is setting rules. You stressed the word must in your quote, and that is not the correct approach to it. Additionally, you made an issue of mental health. If there is a question about that (as your example says), a mental health professional should be consulted for her, if the husband isn’t one, to make that determination.
In any event, I’ve repeatedly responded to your same repetitive points sufficient times. Consider this response conclusive.