philosopher: So if you agree you are subject to your husbands authority, what’s the problem?
If I don’t spell things out very clearly then people misconstrue what I’ve written.
I have finished my one before the last post with the sentence:
em>Truthfully, while some things are a given that I yield to my husband wishes, we do mutually share a marriage where opinions are usually equally considered.
I wanted to stress that while my husband’s and my opninions are mutually considered equal, I still subject myself to my husband’s authority regarding minhugim and the like.
Oomis pointed out that sometimes the wife needs to take charge. Even with Rabbi Miller’s analogy of a husband being the captain, we must realize that Rabbi Miller never dictated to us HOW that should be done, and the fact is there are barely four halachos (maybe a few more that don’t know of) that show the husband is the authority in that particular area that halacha perscribed but not more, as marraiges are not cookie cutter shaped and the ikkur that Hashem wants of us is that there should be sholom bayis in the house.