Reply To: Why people become OTD (with the focus on the "why")

I unfortunately have become acquainted recently with several people who have children who have gone off the derech, and it seems the most common reason the OTD adult kids give is that for a long time before going oTD they felt frumkeit was not the lifestyle for them as it was too restrictive and too limiting, and to a couple more restrictive than it needs to be as society places chumras upon chumras. I don’t think one needs a survey to conclude why people go off the derech. And it’s not as if Yiddishkeit would or should change to keep them. But somehow some of them find their way back, and just as nonfrum have a turning point when they decide to become observant, it works the other way as well.