I may have insuated on the roadmap post, that while there might be several routes, all are valid. However you MUST stay on a valid road. You cannot go off road. After I posted some might have thought that I was validating certain ideologies life reform, however those ideologies are not on the map and require one to go off-road to get there.
Also some people really are hopeless. There are people with “alternative lifestyles” that probably will never come back. There was a man from a well known chassidic family who decided one day he was a woman. I dont see such people coming back and its probably a waste of time trying to do so