Once again, there is not clear one-size-fits-all answer to this question.
Do recall that a newly married couple do not yet know each other, and often have not yet had the chance to develop a deep and meaningful relationship which, as we know, grows only after time and investment. At such an early and delicate stage (especially during their first year of marriage) it can be particularly tempting to “compare” all sorts of things. It’s a natural thing we do when we see the accomplishments of our friends and peers, and it is not a healthy thing in this arena. They both can be very superficial.
There have been a good number of people hurt through seemingly insignificant, but inappropriate socialising. Whilst for others this kind of socialsing is essential.
It’s so worthwhile to have a competent Rabbi or Rebbetzin who know the individuals involved with whom one can discuss the issues with.