Joseph – Actually, if that’s his reason, it would make me very nervous. I would react the same way I did when I checked out a divorced guy with several kids and was told that he learns full-time. When I asked how he supports his kids, I was told that he doesn’t because he is learning.
I think learning is very important, BUT not at the expense of fulfilling one’s obligations to one’s family or potential family. I would want to marry someone who loves learning but is willing to close his sefarim when necessary to fulfill his obligations to others around him, as the Gedolim always do.
If he can take time away from learning to go on a date, he can also take time to travel. If he is unwilling to do so, that would be a bright red flag to me!!