Person1: 1. I was referring to the first date only. I may have forgotten to mention that. If so, I apologize. I had meant to mention that.
2. Regarding what you wrote: “Does that mean my attitude is “there are so many girls to date, I don’t need to travel in order to date.””
When I wrote about that attitude, I was thinking of a specific person I know (a mother of boys) who TOLD me that she would not have her boys travel an hour and a half (maybe it’s two hours- not sure) from Queens to Lakewood because there are so many girls in NY, why should they have to travel. She told me that I have to be willing to travel to meet any boy that I go out with for the same reason. I don’t agree. I was very offended at being told that.I also thought it was spoiling her boys for her to feed them with that attitude. That is what my comment was in response to (although I guess you couldn’t have known that!). If you thought I meant something different, I apologize.
3. I didn’t mean points 1,2. or 3 to be taken as “proof”. I had specifically written that others may disagree with me. We are not talking about the type of things that have clear answers. This is my opinion. I feel very strongly about it, but it’s not something I can PROVE. The most I can do is to bring supports. I think that is true of most things that have to do with differences between men and women (except of course for those things that are clearly listed in the Torah, of which there are not very many).