Person1: “And now I’ve calm down and am uncomfortable to read the angry words. I’m Sure you meant well but I just think you’re too hard on the guys.”
I’m sorry if I sounded like I was being too hard on the guys. Here’s where I was coming from: I have been told a few times (not too many Baruch Hashem) that if I wanted to go out with a specific boy, I had to travel to meet him, because there are so many boys in New York, why would he be willing to travel an hour and a half to go out with you?
I found that extremely offensive. I would hope that a guy who is going out with me is going out with me because he wants to go out with ME in particular, and he doesn’t just think that all girls are the same and there’s millions of them and therefore he should choose his dates based on geography.
Personally, I would be nervous about going out with a guy who is not willing to travel an hour and a half to meet me. It’s not like I was living somewhere random and far out. And it’s also not like I had a car and could travel so easily.
Again, I’m talking about a first date and a relatively small distance. I apologize if that wasn’t clear.
I just don’t like the way some people talk as though girls should be thankful that someone wants to go out with them and they have to be willing to do everything!