Reply To: Ladies First – Is it respectful or not?

“Does that answer the question?”

No it doesn’t actually. No one here answered my question. No one seems to have understood it (besides Meno, but he chose not to answer it either). I was deliberately trying to phrase it tzniusly, and therefore not too directly, but no one understands what I’m asking. :(.

“Depends on the scenario. Let’s say a woman is sunbathing in her own backyard, where there is no Chiyuv to be covered, but men can see (for whatever reason). The men have a chiyuv not to look (Etzba Ketana and Histaklus), but the woman has no chiyuv to cover up (as she is in her own chatzer).”

I have no idea whether or not that is accurate halachically, but it is not relevant to what I am trying to ask. Regardless of whether or not it is muttar, no lady with any sense of tznius/self-respect will deliberately put herself in such a situation if it is avoidable (without getting into the specific scenarios that you may be referring to – let’s just assume that it is easy to avoid such a situation and there is no reason not to).

Let me ask the question this way: When a girl walks in front of a Frum boy, is she doing something similar to what the lady in your hypothetical case is doing if she KNOWS that there are men who will be deliberately watching her?