Reply To: Ladies First – Is it respectful or not?

Person1 – thank you for answering the question! An answer at last! I’m sorry – I started my post before I saw yours.

I deliberately phrased it that way because I wanted to make it clear that the issue is based on respect for women. This is true in both directions: On the one hand, if the guy is supposed to let the girl go first, it is out of respect of her. On the other hand, if he is NOT supposed to let her go first, it is certainly out of respect for her, since if it is untznius, it is not respectful to her! That is the what tznius is about – respect for women!!! Unfortunately, that is something that people don’t always realize.

So my question was, even if it true that it is completely muttar nowadays, would it still pose a tznius issue on the guy’s part and hence be something that the girl might want to try to avoid?

Thank you for answering the question Person1, but if you feel that way about most halachos of tznius (which I don’t think is typical – there is a reason for the halachos, although this may have to do with the community you live in and what you are used to), then I’m not sure your answer is so helpful l’maaseh.