Rav Avigdor Miller (Awake My Glory): There cannot be two kings. The marriage relationship is two-fold. 1) The wife is submissive. This is not only Jewish but natural. There can be no harmony when there are two commanders. Without this indispensable condition, the home is disordered.
I do not find this to be true.
First of all, I find it strange that anyone would compare a marriage to a military formation. Of course, in the military there must be one person in charge. But a marriage is not a military brigade, nor is it a kingdom to be ruled. It’s a partnership – and like all partnerships, it has to be run according to the personalities and skills of the partners. If the partnership works with one dominant person and one submissive — then all the more power to them. But saying that it is impossible to work with two people who have equal say in the affairs of the marriage is downright wrong, as there are plenty of people today who have marriages where they work together — not as king and servant or master and servant.
“Arrogance is unbecoming a woman” – Megillah 14B. For a man it is not an ornament, but for a woman it is as if she wore a mustache.
I find arrogance to be offensive on anyone — man or woman. I certainly don’t find it to be an “ornament.”
The Wolf