Reply To: Who wants to be a Tzadaikes like Rus?

DY -“The Meiri I mentioned, as well as the Ritva, both learn that the gemara on mem daled is asking from the beraisa as an analogy, not directly.”

Do they both say that the Braisa is talking in the case of 1 Meyavem and one lady or can the Braisa be talking only the case of multiple women?

“Of course he is not patur from p’ru ur’vu, but there’s no chiyuv to marry the first woman you meet even if it’s a horrible shidduch!”

I was talking from the girl’s point of view. The guy usually doesn’t care how young the girl is. But a man might care about how old the woman is, due to the limited time of chidbearing years.

“It’s also not realistic to expect a girl in her 20’s or 30’s to give up on a normal marriage and agree to marry someone who might be decades older than her.”

Ok, so at what point, acc. to you, does she have to settle on an older man before she is considered being Mevatel the Mitzva? 40,45,50? I hold -by 22 she is Oiver because if there was s/o who wanted her -she would have found him in the last few years.

“I don’t think it’s fair to compare our generation to Rus and Boaz at all.”

Of course not, we live in a Hefker Velt. Any Motzay Shem Ra you hear on the boy is automatically true and vice versa. Also, any whim you have gives you an excuse not to get married for decades or forever. Eg. I don’t like the other’s looks (I’m not talking about ugly), too short, too tall, too fat (Again, I’m not talking about extremes) and of course too old (Again, I’m not talking about a 95 y.o. man with a 25 y.o. woman, like you hear on the news). I could go on & on with the list of things, but I think e/o gets my gist. What you decided is not worthy of marrying consistent with the Torah’s view?