Reply To: Who wants to be a Tzadaikes like Rus?

DY – “My comparison between a young girl getting married and a large age differential is quite valid, as is the story I mentioned. I’m making the point that rabbonim, who pasken everything according to S.A., will not advise one to enter into an ill advised marriage, despite p’ru ur’vu and lasheves.

Standard advice from various gedolim is not to marry someone more than ten years apart (although I imagine that it expands a bit as they get older).”

It’s only valid acc. to those Rabbis. If what you are saying is true, the question is on these Rabbonim why they aren’t Paskining like the S’A. Either, the guy is one like a Moochach Schin and she isn’t required to marry him or they feel there is another well suited suitor waiting in the wings for her to marry. But if she doesn’t have anything lined up, I don’t see how she isn’t being Oiver the Issur of not being married acc. to the S’A! After a short period of time of looking to get married you have to throw out your whim list. You don’t have the luxury of pushing it off year after year, unless you hold like the Bair Hatev, who says women aren’t Mechuyav to get married. But, he is like your SN – a Daas Yochid!