popa bar abba: As usual, your comments are reprehensible. So, going to the mikvah- even once- is not meritorious??? Quoting your words: “it is is idiotic and pandering”. so, going to the mikvah and having a fully kosher wedding is pandering???
Boruch Hashem thst you are not in charge of weddings in Eretz Yisroel.
I won’t accuse you of always doing this, but you’re flying off the handle here for no reason.
Firstly, the pandering is the idea that after she hesitates to go to the mikva, the rabbi says your fiance will also. It is pandering, because if she didn’t want to do mikva because she thinks hilchos nidda is unfeminist, then having her chosson also do it for no reason doesn’t change anything. It’s also idiotic.
Second, we do chuppas nidda all the time–It’s a fully kosher wedding. And while it is meritorious for her to not do issurei kares for the next few weeks, I don’t think of it as being very important in the context that she doesn’t plan on doing it for the rest of her life.