american_yerushalmi: why are you getting so worked up? so akuperma thinks he and his friends are the only true chareidim. Let him think so.
To the OP: I find your question a little strange.
Question 1 is directed at people who think the Israeli state is so evil it’s immoral to take money from it. Than you ask whether it’s moral for The same evil state to take money from the US. Didn’t we agree it (the state) was immoral anyway?
Question 2: What does it mean if the US “should be able to” dictate? there are no ethics in politics. If they want to dictate, they can try. If they manage to, good for them.
It sounds like you’re trying to make a point but you think it’ll be clearer if you didn’t actually make it. Please do say what’s bothering you about the US giving money to Israel.