Its all how you feel and a lot of people unfortunately feel that way when it comes to doing Mitzvos . With all do respect your feelings are misplaced. If your kids are feeling like nebs its rubbing off from you be mechazek yourself in limud hatorah Lishma Besimcha and you perception will change.
I WOULD RATHER BE A NEB AND BE WITH THE TORAH THAN CHS VESHALOM LEHEPOCH.
And Hagbah is respectfull because you could show everyone how strong you are.
WAKE UP