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People: You are making a mistake.

You cannot divorce perception from the picture. When people are given gellila, it is because they are perceived as nebs. That is the simple truth. And because of that, they should be insulted.

If someone gives you a diamond, because he thinks it is garbage, and says you deserve garbage; you may be happy you got a diamond, but you will still be insulted.

I am sure it is actually chashuv. But that certainly does not excuse the reshaim who do this. And it certainly does not make anyone feel any better.