popa – i don’t mean to be rude, especially to someone who is older than I am, but i just wanted to understand why you won’t even hear the posters’ comments. no matter what the poster says, you argue with them. why can’t you just listen to us?
all i’m trying to say (like others are also trying to say) is why don’t you change your perception and then perhaps others in your shul and other shuls will change their perceptions as well. tell your children and other shul members that it is an honor to get called up for ?????. any kavod is better than none at all. show them by accepting the honor yourself. then people won’t have this perception anymore.
if i came across harsh, i’m really sorry. i didn’t mean to sound that way. i just want you to at least take people’s posts into consideration instead of arguing everyone else’s opinions.