Sparkly, when you go to a shadchan they will ask you to describe yourself, who you are and what you are looking for. Can you really answer those questions honestly? From the things that you have posted here, just a few months ago you described yourself as MO who was looking for a very smart doctor, didn’t matter if he was shomer negia as long as he didn’t smoke. A few weeks ago you told us that you “frummed out” and are now yeshivish and want a yeshivish guy who is learning. Now you told us that you can’t be yeshivish since you are gothic. I don’t know what you mean by that- the word gothic to me reminds me of types of architecture or literature, I never heard it used for a person/personality before. You really need to know who you are and where you are headed before you can date. If you are still in transition, which is very normal at your age (19-20?) you need to wait a bit so you don’t end up marrying someone who is good for you now but may be different from whom you will be in 6 months from now.
In terms of shadchanim, when you are ready, you need to turn to sources for the type of boys you want to meet- for example, if you want a serious yeshivish learning type in his low-mid twenties, you will not find him on dating websites. Figure out the type of yeshiva that fits what you are looking for, then find someone who knows guys at that yeshiva. Or you can ask married friends whose husbands might have friends that fit the bill. Or your parents’ friends who have children of dating age. Same applies for college guys, or any other type.