Reply To: survey on the Get experience

Necho, u asked “Lenny, you never answered zahavasdad’s question about why you would want to be married to a person who does not want to be married to you.” This issue was addressed in the thread about getting a beis din’s preliminary ruling. Basically, it’s an age-old issue & been decided that the spouse who wants to stay in the marriage has every right to do so. In fact, Chabad & others actively encourage it. However, if there’s abuse or another halachic reason for the divorce, then the Beis Din orders the reluctant spouse to issue a Get. What I can’t figure out is if one of the spouses absolutely wants out, and the Beis Din says they can’t have out, what happens to the marriage going forward? Thanks.