“What I can’t figure out is if one of the spouses absolutely wants out, and the Beis Din says they can’t have out, what happens to the marriage going forward? Thanks.”
Lenny, you seem like a nice guy, I just have a few questions for you. What is wrong with you?? What do you think happens to the marriage? If your wife doesn’t want to be in the marriage and she is forced to stay in it, then she will probably make your life miserable until you give her a Get.
Since you seem to need this spelled out for you… If she wanted to drive you crazy, she can 1) Stop doing housework; 2) Stop making food; 3) Embarrass you in public; 4) Constantly be screaming at you and making your life miserable…
That is just a few things that can take place. Lenny. TAKE A HINT. Your wife doesn’t want to be with you–just give her a Get and move on. Stop trying to force her to be in a marriage because she will be miserable and will hate you. Unfortunately, you can meet with 1000 Rabbis, but even if they can force her to stay married to you, they cannot force her to love you or to even treat you respectfully.