Did you hear what happened with…..?
if someone starts of like that, you’re getting yourself into a complicated situation.
My rebbi told me that if someone has to hear loshon hara (e.g. a lawyer [which im not ch’v]), then what they do is after their meeting they have to sit down and repeat “what i heard is not true. Mr.x is an amazing person with amazing middos” over and over again many times.
Also, my rebbi advised me when we were discussing the topic, that if someone hears loshon hara, they should quickly change the topic while at the same time showing what the person just said is bad, in a respectful way. For example, one should point to the sky and say: “look there’s a bird!”. that’s such an obvious way to change a conversation, it shows that what the person just said is wrong respectfully, and still changes he conversation.
-Yeshvishe Kup-