Futuregirl – thanks for giving me a clearer picture of what you are looking for. It defintely makes it easier for me to make suggestions, and it is also easier to avoid LH, since I can just tell you if I think a school sounds right for YOU without having to say anything negative about a school.
Have you had a chance to check out TD’s website? It sounds to me like it fits what you are looking for.
I’m not sure if B’aer Miriam would be right for you in terms of academics, so you may want to check that out.
I would also think that DB could be a possibility. But I don’t know enough about what the student body is like and if the girls are out-of-townish enough. Writergirl would probably know something like that. It is not small, but it is very warm.