I have no personal experience in the mater and am not qualified to advise. But, I do feel obligated to say the following: The answer to your last question is DEFINITELY NO!!!!
The Jews have a very different view of him, and that is probably the most basic difference between Judaism and chrisianity. I think it is worthwhile for you to do some research on the topic – find a book that discusses the Orthodox view of him.
That is unrelated to your current dilemna of dealing with your family. But if you are now Jewish or wish to become Jewish (it wasn’t clear to me if you have actually converted yet or not), it is important that you understand CLEARLY the differences in beliefs between Jews and Christians. As someone who was born Jewish and does not have to confront these issues, it is not a topic that I must delve into deeply, but it seems to me that that this is a topic that is CRUCIAL for a convert to have a firm understanding of.
In terms of your dilemma with your family, all I can do is offer you my sympathy. It must be a very difficult issue to deal with and one which requires an experienced and Wise Rabbi’s guidance.
You need to speak to a Rabbi who is very experienced in these matters and who is clearly coming from a Torah perspective and is widely accepted in the Orthodox world. I wish you luck in finding the right Rabbi to guide you.
I do know that there is a Rabbi Meir Fund in New York who has a lot of experience with converts and seems to be reputable (I know someone who converted through him). Perhaps he would be a good person to speak to.