Reply To: Growing through falling

Observanteen- thats a great question! Personally, when I realize that I have fallen somehow, I kind yell at my own yetzer hara out loud. I say, “I am going to fight, and I am going to win!” It sounds silly, and it may feel silly doing it, but it really helps me. Once you realize in your heart that you have fallen, you have to use all the strength that you have inside of you, and DAVEN to Hashem to receive the strength you need, to rise above it. Without Hashem’s help, you won’t succeed. Thats the whole point. You have to make the effort, and keep Hashem in front of your eyes the whole time.

Also realize, this takes such great strength, that when you do rise again, you WILL be on an even GREATER level than you were before. “How do I get back to the level I was?” You wont. You will be even higher :-). Why? Because you were faced with a challenge and had some kind of yerida that you never experienced before, so you reached out to Hashem, held His hand, and are stronger and greater than you were before without the nisayon. Every nisayon makes us greater and greater as long as you see Hashem in it and don’t allow yourself to give into the yetzer hara once you realize that it is a test. Every nisayon is a stepping stone, like another diamond to put into a bracelet and make it even more beautiful and holy. It may appear to be an ugly rock when your going through it, but once you pass the test, you will see the rock turn into the most beautiful diamond!