Reply To: obtain a beis din's preliminary ruling without actually going to a beis din

Joseph, can you or someone provide a web link or specifc reference to show that the following standard applies today: “. . . alleging them is insufficient in itself to allow beis din to order a divorce be granted, even if the party sounds believable. To take an extreme example, the Shulchan Aruch states that if a wife comes to beis din asking for a Get and says her husband physically hits her, the Mechaber rules that the Halacha is that beis din must give him warning that if he doesn’t stop hitting her they will require he divorce her. And if he continues being violent beis din can and will require he divorce her.” Reason I ask is because you’re citing laws that are over 1,000 years old vs. Lilmod who is saying “I have not heard of a single person who wanted to get divorced but was not allowed to.” Thanks.