Reply To: obtain a beis din's preliminary ruling without actually going to a beis din

Lilmod, are you sure when u say ” in most cases is that the Beis Din convinces the husband to give his wife a get.” Per my discussions with a Beis Din in Lakewood, NJ earlier today, as long as one person wants to stay in the marriage, they would at least require counseling and still not necessarily order a Get. Even if both people wanted a divorce, they would try talking them out of it. I’m not saying you’re wrong. I’m just saying that absent a halachic reason for a Get, my understanding is most beis din would not try to “convince” anyone to give a Get. But I could be wrong.