Joseph – please pay attention to my posts and to what is going on here. There is no contradiction to this Teshuva and anything I have written. This Teshuva is discussing whether or not halachically the man can be forced to give his wife a Get. That is not the topic of discussion. No one is arguing with you on the halachos of Gitten. It is an area of halacha that I know almost nothing about, so I have no way of knowing whether you are right or wrong, and I have no interested in discussing, and I couldn’t care less in what situations a man is halachically obligated to give his wife a divorce.
The topic of discussion is whether or not according to Torah hashkafa/middos/values/, if Rabbanim and therapists have determined that a husband is abusive and controlling, and it would be in the best interests of the wife and children for the couple to get divorced, the husband should be encouraged or discouraged from giving a divorce.