Exactly why I was concerned about the things that people were posting.That was my concern all along. The fact that technically someone CAN do something according to Halacha does not necessarily mean it is the right thing to do.
That seems to be what the Rav was telling you, and what I (l’havdil) was trying to say the whole time.
Thanks for giving us the update Lenny. I would advise that you might be better off going to Rabbanim for advice from here on out as opposed to anonymous posters.
I am glad you are proceeding with things and happy that you are going for marriage counseling. If in fact, things do not work out and the counselor advises you to give a Get, I hope that you will take him/her seriously and not insist on your right to stay married just because you can get away with it halachically.
Hatzlacha!