Limod Ulelomed
I will side with Lenny on this matter. Marriages can be worked on through professional help. It seems like there was never a serious mutual effort to work on the issues of this marriage. So to speculate at this point if the marriage is viable or not is premature. Lenny claims that the Rabbanim he spoke with are not optimistic that the marriage is viable; however, in truth rabbanim cannot determine this from one session with a couple. I would leave that determination for a therapist who has invested months of mutual therapy to conclude whether or not the relationship is viable or not.
Many therapists don’t have the required skills needed to address these serious situations. Also, many therapists are known to be biased in favor of women. It’s imperative to go to therapists who have a track record of saving marriages.