lightbrite: “lilmod ulelamaid: I know 🙁 But the weird thing is that why is it okay for kiruv professionals to criticize people who aren’t observing Torah? I know that the whole Torah is Truth thing means that a Jew who isn’t observing Torah is not living properly. Yet it’s kind of judgey imho”.
If I get what you mean, you’re asking why it is not ok to be judgemental of bad behavior (like the one you mentioned) among frum people, but it’s ok to criticize secular people for their behavior.
My answer is that there is no difference. A bad act is a bad act no matter whether it’s done by a frum or secular person.
However, specifically about being machmir in halacha, I’ve personally met people who couldn’t acknowledge that being makpid on halacha had even the slightest value. They’d jump at every mention of chumra and give rants about people “making up” mitzvot (unsurprisigly these people weren’t very self-aware) So I guess that’s the kind of behavior LU was talking about.