btw, if you are talking about the photoshopping issue, I think I told you that I wasn’t commenting on your asking the question in the first place – I was commenting on some of the responses. And once you got the responses that you got, I felt that you should either assume that the positive ones were accurate or write to the publisher to find out from them.
In terms of your asking the question in the first place – I have no idea if it was allowed or not. I think if it’s concerning you, that is something that you should ask so that you will know the answer and not have to be bothered about it.
I understand your need to express yourself – part of hilchos L”H is that one can talk about things that he needs to talk about, but there are conditions involved. One important condition has to do with who you are allowed to discussed it with. There are halachos regarding choosing the most appropriate person to talk to. I wonder if this is the best place for some of these discussions – but again, I think you should discuss that with a Rav. First try to think about what alternatives you may have, and then discuss it with him.