Basically, each gender is better in different ways, and each gender needs to focus on its maalos (advantages) and not its chesronos (disadvantages). It is counter-productive to focus on the chesronos of your gender, certainly not before you have reached the stage of having enough self-esteem and self-confidence in your identity and your role that you can handle it (if that ever happens).
Therefore, it’s not a good idea to discuss this topic with the opposite gender because they have to focus on why it’s better to be a man, and you have to focus on why it’s better to be a lady, so such a discussion becomes impossible and unproductive.
This is the conclusion that I reached approximately 5 minutes ago after thinking about it for many years (and after reading some of the discussions in the CR on the topic).