Lenny
you asked
“Daas, why am i being cruel for not voluntarily & eagerly writing a Get? Can’t I just as easily ask why it’s not cruel for the wife to ask for a Get when there’s no compelling reason for one?”
you asked a similar question earlier.
Who said it isnt crule for your wife to aks for a get?
She isnt the one asking. You are.
And refusing a Get when their is no hope of the marriage continuing (for whatver reason) as you indicate in your OP is cruel.