DY,
So basically you’re saying that if a wife wakes up one morning and says she wants out, then the husband should get beaten until he gives her a get? Did you just throw the shulchan aruch in the trash? According to your post, a woman has no marital obligation so long as she uses the “A”-Abuse word, but a husband has all the obligations including divorce?
Let there be 100 RABBIS siding with his wife demanding a get. The facts won’t change- if there was never couples therapy invested in addressing the issues then the TORAH says wife is not allowed to even ask for a get. And husband is not allowed to give a get if there are children involved.