Joseph: “When asking gittin/shalom bayis shailos, one should address the shaila to the same caliber Rov as one would submit a shaila whether to pull the plug on grandpa’s respirator. Both are pekuach nefesh shailos that aren’t asked to the corner shtiebele rabbi. And surely vet any potential shalom bayis therapist with Daas Torah prior to going to a therapist who could potentially make a bad situation worse c’v.”
For sure. So it sounds like you are agreeing that if he goes to Rav Simcha Bunim Cohen, he should abide by what he says (the same as you said originally), right? (whether he says to go to a therapist, to give a Get, or to not give a get).