Reply To: what does "Get refusal" mean?

Nechomash, you say “Make her happy (work out your issues) and she won’t need a get.” I think your logic is one of the main reasons my wife has “checked out” & wants to get rid of me. About 11 yrs ago, my Rabbi told me exactly the same thing. I said how? He said figure it out. Per halacha, Jewish Press, D. Carnegie, etc… it’s impossible to make someone else happy. And telling a wife it’s her husband’s fault that she feels unhappy, imho, is totally counter-productive, leads to her really becoming and wanting a divorce.